Working with the Heartbreaking Feeling That Something is Wrong with You

Working with the Heartbreaking Feeling That Something is Wrong with You

“I found the Divine(dəˈvīn) within my Heart.”

~Rumi

By Leo Babauta

The most common problem I’ve found in the people I’ve coached(kōCH) and worked with in my programs is a very fundamental problem:

Most people have the feeling that something is wrong with them. And it is heartbreaking.

Actually, most people would say that their problem is that they want to be more disciplined(ˈdisəplind), more focused, better at sticking(stik) to their health habits, better at finances(fəˈnans,ˈfīnans), more mindful … so more of something, or better at something else.

But underlying all of that is the feeling that something is wrong with us.

We are not disciplined enough. We’re not focused enough. We’re not fit enough. We’re not mindful enough. We’re not organized enough. We’re not good enough. We’re not enough. We’re never enough.

It breaks our heart, because we try our best, but we come up short. All of our efforts can’t solve the fundamental flaws(flô) in us, the parts that will never be good enough. There are parts of us we don’t want to face, that we don’t like, that we don’t want anyone to see. And so we hide(hīd) it, cover it up with activity that shows how great we are. Maybe if we show how awesome(ˈôsəm) we are, no one will notice the shameful(ˈSHāmfəl) parts.

The most heartbreaking thing is that nothing could be farther from the truth. Nothing is wrong with us. We are whole, we are good-hearted, we are beautiful and full of love.

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https://zenhabits.net/wrong-hearted/