What’s the difference between like, love, and in-love?

What’s the difference between like, love, and in-love?

By Derek Sivers

What’s the difference(ˈdif(ə)rəns) between like, love, and in-love?

How do you know when you love someone instead of just liking them a lot?

How do you know when you’re “in-love” with someone instead of just loving them as a person?

I asked a bunch(bənCH) of friends these questions, and got a huge variety(vəˈrīətē) of answers:

“If I like anything about someone, I like them. If I like everything about someone, I love them. If I like everything about someone and we have great sex(seks), I’m in love.”

“Like is liking someone, but conditionally(kənˈdiSHənl). Love is liking someone unconditionally. In-love is just glorification of a temporary(ˈtempəˌrerē) infatuation(inˌfaCHo͞oˈāSHən). Eventually(iˈvenCHo͞oəlē) it becomes love.”

“This sounds morbid(ˈmôrbəd), but I think of it in terms of how I’d react if they died. If I like someone and they died, I’d be sad and cry(krī) once or twice. If I love someone and they died, I’d be devastated(ˈdevəˌstāt) and cry for days or weeks. If I’m in love with someone and they died, I’d want to die too.”

How do you know?

Do other languages have different terms for “love” versus(-səz,ˈvərsəs) “in love” that make it more poetically(pōˈetik) distinct(disˈtiNGkt)?

https://sivers.org/inlove